Toxic Homes n’ Schools Killing Us
As much as we hate to admit it, we all are going through mental issues. It doesn’t mean we have gone mad (but sometimes we really do go mad), it means to go through depression at low age, having self-esteem issues, zero confidence, aggressiveness, social anxiety, bad communication skills, feeling emptiness, messed up identities, emotional imbalances and the list goes on. Look around yourself, and even inside your own self, you’ll see a dark messed up corner that you hide from others with a painted smile.
Our personality development basically depends on our first 5 years, but it goes on until age 20. By then, our personality is completely formed. It’s our primary two institutions; our family and educational institutes (E.I.) from where we learn, model and internalize things. Because our identities are dependent on them, so these places have crucial importance. But our homes and E.I. have lost their productivity and completely turned into toxicity.
“OUR UNHEALTHY FAMILIAL AND EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTES’ ENVIRONMENT IS CAUSING MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES AND MESSED UP PERSONALITIES IN PEOPLE”
I have decided to work to bring a change in these institutions so I can help all those suffocated and damaged people out there. Hence, I started reaching out to people, asking them for interviews .
I will be sharing pictures too, it would be really kind of you to go through texts in those pictures.
Many of them responded, and heartily spilled out everything like they badly wanted a place to vent.
This person was on call for one hour just talking about her story and what should be done for this issue.
Here are few pictures of people’s responses.
I also took a lot of notes to keep record of the data. You can ignore the handwriting and the content, just skip to next (lol).
By personal observation and the interviews, there is so much I learnt. There are several issues in these institutions, so intense that impact us for life. Harsh fights, abuse, swearing, strictness, rigidity, neglecting kids, suppression, imposing and forcing things, and on the other hand, sometimes pampering the child, not focusing on his upbringing, letting him loose in the dangerous world, this is all what our family is doing, pressuring us with their expectations, and turning deaf to our passion.
In the picture above, you can see a person responded with 9 pages document! This was the intensity of her issues.
Meanwhile, our educational institutes are no lesser deal. Students these days have become so cruel, and ignorant. They bully, emotionally torture you, manipulate you, use you and teach you all the stuff that isn’t desirable. They become the first reason why one starts to hate school. Even our own friends, they become too overly sensitive and dramatic to start a fight every other day. Then there come the teachers, whom are the embodiment of knowledge and support (that’s sarcasm). They demand respect from students, but we need to ask, that are they on the position to even ask for it? Even teachers these days bully students, or motivate students to bully others, they keep grudges with students on petty matters, expect lip service to give them grades, unfairly insult students in front of others, punish severely, interfere unjustly in students’ matters and make rumors about them, and even use them. I have even seen teachers selling students for vulgar purposes.
You can see the intensity of damage our Schools do to us in the above pictures.
Now wouldn’t these things destroy us? Yes there might be many people strong enough to tackle it all but most of us are not, most of us get too damaged to stand back up, too damaged to ‘see’ ourselves and our life.
Above mentioned is an example of a person too deeply affected by the issues of her primary institutions.
Listening to people’s stories brought me close to tears too, even though I was prepared to face the realities, but they were way too intense. I hope I can successfully bring a change in future on a high magnitude.
